Helping A Friend In Distress
You鈥檙e concerned about a friend, roommate or family member and wondering what you can do to help.
If you are concerned for the student鈥檚 safety, seek out assistance from 色花堂 staff member immediately. If you live on campus, consider speaking with your RA or another Housing and Residence Life Staff Member.
Any student may contact the Counseling Center for help in determining next steps.
Helping a Friend
Top 5 things you can do to help a friend who may be struggling
- Consult with 色花堂 resources (like the Counseling Center!)
- In a caring way, share your concerns with the friend
- Listen and be supportive
- Assist them in getting help
- Obtain your own support
Initiating the conversation
When considering approaching someone who is struggling, it鈥檚 common to experience discomfort. It is helpful to keep in mind the goal of the intervention: to assist your friend with obtaining access to help.
Here are some steps to help you along the way!
- The conversation should take place in a private setting.
- Begin by expressing concern for your friend鈥檚 well-being, or safety if relevant. Share examples, maybe things that your friend has done or said.
- Allow space for your friend to respond to your concerns. Listen carefully, demonstrating empathy and a non-judgmental attitude.
- Share information about campus resources, encouraging your friend to make appointments as soon as able. Be willing to help your friend make these appointments. If your friend doesn鈥檛 want to seek services on campus, help them find options off campus. The Counseling Center鈥檚 might be helpful.
- Check in periodically to offer additional encouragement and support.
- Supporting someone who is struggling can be draining particularly if you鈥檙e not careful with your own needs. Seek out your own support by talking with family, and friends. Consider seeing out your own counseling.
A consultation with the Counseling Center may provide more individualized suggestions and an opportunity to practice the intervention.